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Jan. 22, 2018 — An announcement

After a series of tests administered over the last three weeks or so, I have something I need to tell you all.

I do not have cancer.

For most of the 7 billion people on this planet, the above sentence is the default. But for those people who say that they do have cancer, what is your default response?

I got a different perspective today from feminist author, professional contrarian, and my former college classmate Elizabeth Wurtzel in a column she wrote for The Guardian recently.

In this article, she anticipates a wave of sympathetic or empathetic responses from friends, peers, and even long-lost classmates, and shuts them down.

The crux of her thought is this sentence:

I don’t need you to be on my side – I’m on my side.

Truer words were never spoken. In these days of “likes” or “dislikes” on social media, real words and deeds have given way to glib symbols. The Internet herd can give Elizabeth’s posts as many “likes” as can be gathered by any Lady Gaga Twitter post, but will they help her prognosis? Make her life better? Give her hope?

Of course not. And I get it.


Elizabeth, if you are reading this, just know that I support you in whatever decisions you make in your path towards remission.

You do not have to be an inspiration, and I won’t judge you if you don’t want to be. All I want is for you to feel better.

I recognize that you identify with the class behind me rather than us ’88ers, but I do hope you come this fall for Reunion, and we can meet up for something strong at Cafe Pamplona.

Above all, be well.

Al

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